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How often do you find yourself saying, "It's not that bad," "I'm probably overthinking it," or "I should be able to cope"? In this blog, I explore the quiet ways we learn to dismiss our own feelings, why we do it, and how listening to ourselves with curiosity, rather than judgement, can be the beginning of something different.

When something feels uncertain, the mind often fills in the gaps with stories. This blog explores why we overthink, how our need for certainty shapes the stories we tell ourselves, and the role attachment plays in how we respond to silence or distance. It looks at the difference between evidence and interpretation, and how returning to the present moment can reduce anxiety, self-criticism, and emotional distress.