Therapy Isn’t a Quick Fix: It’s a Commitment to Yourself

We live in a world where almost everything is instant. We order something online, and it arrives the very next day. We can stream a film in seconds. We get dinner delivered to our door without even leaving the sofa.

It’s no wonder, then, that many of us arrive at therapy - often in pain or crisis - hoping for the same instant relief. We want to feel better now.

And I get it, I really do. When you’ve been carrying depression, anxiety, grief, relationship struggles, burnout, or the weight of overthinking, you want the discomfort to end as soon as possible.

But here’s the uncomfortable truth: therapy isn’t a quick fix. Therapy isn’t like replacing a broken part or putting a plaster over a deep wound. It’s more like tending a garden. You plant seeds. You water them. You keep showing up, even when nothing seems to be happening. And one day, often when you least expect it, you notice something has shifted.

Why Does It Feel So Difficult?

It feels difficult because therapy asks you to do something that our busy, fast-paced culture rarely encourages: to slow down and really be with yourself.

It means:

·       Sitting with uncomfortable feelings you’ve avoided.

·       Questioning long-standing behavioural and thought patterns, beliefs, and conditioning.

·       Letting go of ways of coping that once felt safe but are no longer serving you.

Sometimes, this can feel like things are getting harder before they get easier, but that doesn’t mean it isn’t working - in fact, it often means you’re getting to the heart of what needs to change.

The Power of Commitment

Real, lasting change takes work and time, and I know that’s not what we want to hear. It takes showing up even on the days when you’d rather cancel. It takes talking about the things you’d rather not talk about and facing the things you’d rather not face.

Each session builds on the last. The small insights, the gentle shifts, the moments of self-awareness - they all add up. Over time, the way you think, feel, and respond to life begins to transform in ways you couldn’t have even imagined at the start of therapy. You will understand and see yourself much more clearly.

The Work Is Worth It

Therapy is an investment in yourself. What I regularly hear from my clients is that our time together is one of the few places where they get to slow down, be truly heard and seen, explore who they are, and make lasting changes.

I’ll be honest - It’s not quick. It’s not easy. But it’s powerful.

The commitment you make in therapy is more than time in a room - it’s a promise to yourself, an act of courage, and a gift that will continue to shape your life long after the sessions have ended.